A Woman’s word.

We women love to talk… so “they” say… We gossip… apparently. We use our words to cut another woman down… well… we can. Our words, our expression of self, our offerings to the world and each other… what are they really worth? We hear the term “A Man’s Word is his bond” What is a Woman’s word?

I have a golden rule,

“If it’s not said to my face it doesn’t count.”

If there is a real issue, to be spoken to, then best speak to me direct, otherwise all you are doing is collecting ego strokes if you are complaining to someone else about blah blah…

This is perhaps a bit harsh, but it’s the way I choose to function, in it’s core is “what other people think (or say) about me is none of my business”. It free’s me from worrying about any of it. For I can meet most things, in the moment, as it’s felt and experienced, but if you take something away with you, stew on it, chew it up a bit, mess it all about, then come up with a new and improved version of what was said… how am I responsible for that… as in how am I able to respond?

I am learning to take this all the way in…

“To thine own self be true, and as sure as night follows day you can be false to no other” Shakespeare.

…and choose those words used on the inside to support the woman unfolding in new and loving power, that has yet to be fully unfurled, rather than list the thousands of reasons the world is not ready for a “profitable business sharing blood wisdom” as “The Universe” puts it.

I am exploring a new state of word, a lyrical state, were words arrive in rhyme without intending them too… have you been here? For me this is hooked in/feeling with the sacred flow kind of state, that words seem to “order” themselves around the flow. Please leave a comment if you have felt this.

I’m not sure if we need a similar phrase to “a man’s word as his bond”… for me though, a woman’s word is her sword, to cut down, or cut free… tis always our choice!

Giving permission

There is something quite profound we can give each other that often we don’t even know we have made the gift. When one is living their life, as deeply sourced as they can, with all the juicy that flows comfortably through them, their actual presence becomes freeing. Their lives become the beacon, the gold standard, the possible. Just by being themselves we can perceive our own possibility.

This is the kind of freedom we can afford each other in the circle, that most of us have not met before. The kind of vulnerability that feels like it would be deeply dangerous… any where, let alone out loud in front of other women, those dangerous women, the ones that can rip one to shreds… yet, these are the women that can use their power, the Kali Sword of our word, our spoken out loud truth, to set us all free. When we give ourselves permission to sit in circle with the kind of dedication to truth that we are capable of. For perhaps some of the most damaging lies we tell, are the ones we tell ourselves.

Tis interesting to consider what we may need permission for, and yet our obedience is assured in many ways, due to the training we have endured to participate in our current cultures perception of approval, acceptance… to live the life that doesn’t make any one uncomfortable in theirs. To be easy, low maintenance, going with the flow… which is fine, till you can see the cliff that we are all about to “flow” over. Then, to be the one that says it out loud, what perhaps a whole lot of other people were thinking.

The role of the writer is not to say what we can all say, but [to say] what we are unable to say – Anais Nin

… this is the permission we can afford ourselves and in doing so, we make room for others to perceive it too, tis the power of the now, to say it as we see it. To get as deeply comfortable with what is, what truly is going on, thus be able to shift and change what is possible in our own lives.

May your life, lived fully, as whole as possible, as real as possible, for you, here and now… to be what you choose.. or not..

I give you permission to share in these comments… what real and whole may be for you, for it is different for us all.